This post was originally posted around this time last year, and was inspired for a revisit by this year’s Friday morning Certified Networkers…

I recently sat down with a professional that I have known for many years to do a one to one. As we were starting the meeting, she asked me a question that left me a little uncomfortable, “Are we at V, C, or P?”
(click here for more information on the VCP Process)
Now, this is not the first time I have been asked this question by a professional, but it has been a while…

I then started thinking why is it so awkward, and the answer I came up with was what if I said the wrong thing? (after the fact, I thought I should have turned it back onto her, and asked her where she through we were in our relationship) What if I said we were at C and she thought we were at P?
And it made me recall the dating scene… that hard conversation to bring up of “Are we mutually exclusive?” If you ask too early when you are dating, you could scare away your potential partner…
Or what if you ask, thinking that you are only seeing each other, only to have him/her say that they are still seeing other people. It can be scary to jump into unknown territory, ask a question when the answer is unknown.

Now, for the two of us, the question was okay – Valerie Divecchio of Divine Creations and I have known each other since 2005 or 2006, if I had to guess, and with our behavioral styles leading us to being blunt & honest, it was a good question; we needed to know how many points to record on our networking scorecard. And for those of you dying to know, we are at high Credibility, or at least that’s where we decided we were.

Do you ask people familiar with V-C-P what stage you are in the relationship or do you try to guess?
What value would it be to know where you are in the model?

About Tiffanie Kellog

Tiffanie loves to help people make more money while saving time, so they can hopefully have more fun!

4 responses »

  1. I used to try to guess until I went through the Fast Track program. Now I ask questions to figure out where I’m at in the relationship, and it works with non-BNI members too!

  2. William Mellas says:

    This is possibly the ultimate E-tiffany for me. A great analogy that truly identifies what we need to know from our referral partners.

  3. Didn’t mean to make you uncomfortable, but LOVE that we can be blunt and honest with each other! 🙂

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